Magic? Do
you believe in it when it comes to an enduring relationship? We do!
After working with hundreds of marriages, we are
firm believers that couples need to spend a lifetime learning, applying,
relearning, applying, day after day, year after year. That’s why we do what we do! But we also believe in an intangible thing
we’ll refer to as “magic.”
One of our favorite teachers once said when
teaching about marriage that it starts with a spark…no, we’re not talking about
lust here! We’re talking about
butterflies in the stomach, feeling a need to get to know this person better,
catching his eye across the room, noticing she likes Mexican food as much as
you do, your heart skipping a beat when she enters the room. That’s the magic!
Sometimes we hear the statements: What does she see in him? They sure are an odd couple! I never pictured a guy like him with a girl
like her.
I (Paula) remember my best friend confronting me
when I was thinking about dating Kevin again after he had broken my heart two
times already: I can’t believe you are willing to even consider dating him again!! What could I say…there was just something
about this young man! From the first
time I set eyes on him I thought he was THE ONE.
So, when you look at the differences (age, race,
background, personality type) and doubt the relationship’s viability, consider
learning more about that person and how to communicate with and understand
them. That’s why we always help couples
understand their differences (temperaments, background, conflict resolution
styles, etc.)
Because sometimes, it’s the intangibles, the
“magic” that makes an enduring relationship.
One woman (married over 50 years) put it this way: I don’t
know how to explain it, but there’s something about my husband. Music always sounds better, sweeter, when
we’re together. Her husband
agreed: When she’s around, food is tastier, sunsets are more
beautiful…everything is just plain better.
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